The following is the conclusion of an excerpt from the newest volume in the Concordia Commentary series, Ephesians, in which Thomas Winger expounds on the biblical view of marriage and subordination to Christ as described by Paul in Ephesians 5. You can view the first part here and the second part here.
Subordination Is Not Demeaning, but God’s Order for the Transmission of Blessings
To be fair to those who stumble at the thought of superordination and subordination within the body of Christ, one must acknowledge that modern Westerners often view subordination as not a humble but a humiliating act, not honorable but demeaning. We must stress that Paul does not at all suggest that wives, children, or servants are less valuable or are inferior by nature to their superordinates. Inasmuch as children are to honor and heed their parents throughout their lives, not only when they are young, they may quickly become stronger, more vigorous, more intelligent, richer, and more powerful than their parents—and yet they remain subordered. Likewise, servants may be stronger, smarter, or more honorable than their masters, and yet they are ordered under them, remaining their servants. So also wives may certainly be superior to their husbands in any number of ways, but are both obligated and gifted by the Spirit to submit to their place in the order with respect to their husbands.